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What To Do So Your Kids Don’t Stress You Out
“We’ve got a 2-year-old and a 4-year-old and I love them to pieces, but they’re always getting into things or having tantrums or...
Dealing with Summertime Stress
Summertime means long, sunny days, no school, lazy weekends, family vacations – and lot’s more time with the kids. Most parents LOVE...
The Real Gift of Parenting
“Last year, the holidays were crazy! I seemed to spend most of my time standing in line or carrying bags. We spent a small fortune on...
Skillful Responses to Child Wants
“What are skillful ways to respond to the wants of our children?” I’ve discussed previously how the motivated pursuit of goals, the...
What’s “Optimal” About Frustration?
Dear Dr. Hanson,When the baby cries we pick her up, but our parents say she's manipulating us and she'll never learn to live without us if...
The Arc of Desire
Dear Dr. Hanson,How can we figure out what our children want?A child's -- or grownup's -- wants usually follow a particular path through...
When Kids Can’t Have What They Want
“Our 14-month-old, Sam, really gets mad when he can’t do or have something he wants. He’ll hold on tight to an object, and if we take it...
Effective Problem-Solving with Teenagers
My three previous columns have discussed the key challenges of the teen years: isolation, mediocrity and risky behavior, and conflict. The...
Supporting Positive Motivation in Teenagers
“Our fourteen-year-old either sits in their room listening to violent rap music or slouching toward school with his slacker buddies. They...
Preserving Intimacy with Teenagers
“Our twelve-year-old daughter is still talking to us, but we’re worried how long that’s going to last. Her friends all seem to hate their...
Preventing Adolescence – Well, Sort Of
“Our oldest is just in fifth grade, but we’re already worried about middle school and the ‘terrible teens.’ Some of his friends already...
Optimizing a Child’s Health
In our last column, we discussed how to teach several fundamental psychological skills to children, including letting go of upsetting...
