Supporting Positive Motivation in Teenagers

“Our fourteen-year-old either sits in their room listening to violent rap music or slouching toward school with his slacker buddies. They were a good student until 7th grade, and then it’s been all downhill. They just doesn’t care anymore. They either ignore me or...

Preserving Intimacy with Teenagers

“Our twelve-year-old daughter is still talking to us, but we’re worried how long that’s going to last. Her friends all seem to hate their own parents. They talk about them like they are overbearing idiots, to be avoided at all costs, barely worth a glance, let alone a...

Preventing Adolescence – Well, Sort Of

“Our oldest is just in fifth grade, but we’re already worried about middle school and the ‘terrible teens.’ Some of his friends already have earrings, and he kids us (sometimes I’m not sure he’s joking) about getting green hair. We’re scared about drugs and alcohol,...

Optimizing a Child’s Health

In our last column, we discussed how to teach several fundamental psychological skills to children, including letting go of upsetting experiences and taking in positive ones. These skills will help anyone, but they’re especially useful for spirited or...

Teaching Kids Psychological Skills

In our last column, we discussed how to create a nurturing and structured environment for spirited or cautious/rigid children. In this column, we’re broadening our focus to explore how to teach basic, essential psychological skills that all children need, like being...