True Love

True Love

Len and I are doing OK; for one, we don’t argue as much as we used to. But something is still missing, some spark that used to be there. We’re pleasant with each other and still make love but that whole deep connection thing we had before kids has really...
Speaking from Your Heart

Speaking from Your Heart

“I feel like I have to walk around on eggshells with my husband and his family: If I’m not VERY careful, they get upset and either blame themselves or me or both. But the result is I have all this stuff bottled up inside.” There are natural concerns about really...
Empathy: A Key Relationship Skill

Empathy: A Key Relationship Skill

My husband and I communicate well enough on the surface, but I feel we are drifting apart deep down. I for one don’t feel like he understands me that much any more. The basis of emotional closeness in a relationship is empathy, the foundation of the experience...
Sex After Children

Sex After Children

“Our baby just had her first birthday, and my husband and I are getting along OK, but the problem is he’s really frustrated that we almost never make love because I usually feel too tired and ‘touched-out’ when we finally get to bed.” This is a BIG topic, so please...
Restoring Love

Restoring Love

“When John and I got married, we were so happy. Ten years later, we have kids, jobs, and tension. Our love is a faraway feeling. We argue and it doesn’t settle much. Sometimes things feel good, but mainly we are polite and sort of distant. We just function and get...